BREAKUP SURVIVAL TIPS

I don't know if I have become an expert in giving love advices. All I know is that I've been through a lot of failed relationships and for every heartbreak that I experienced, it took a piece of my heart but in return it gave me lessons in love. Now I can say that I am stronger and wiser when it comes to matters of the heart.

Just to make things clear guys, I'm not in anyway broken. Right now I am very much happy and contented with my love life. My heart is beating for the right reason and for the right person. Awww!

So why am I writing this topic? It's because I wanted to help the millions of broken hearted out there. And also I wanted to share the lessons that I learned from my personal heartbreak experiences. Let's admit it, when you are broken hearted, you can't do things that you normally do. Even if you are into writing, you suddenly feel that the writer in you has disappeared. It only shows that you lost interest in the things that you love, and worst, you lost contact with the outside world.

Here are my heartbreak lessons that I want to share with you.
1. One step at a time
Time heals all wound so give yourself a time. A lot of persons around you will give you advice to make you feel better. They all mean well but sometimes different opinions and so many advices can add more stress to your situation. Take some time to be alone. Reminisce. Get mad. Cry all you want. Reflect & try to figure out what went wrong. And of course, pray that things will get better. Remember that everything has its process. Even if you feel that the situation you are into is kind of abnormal, consider yourself still normal. You have to go through the normal process of healing. First comes denial which I think is the most difficult step because you keep on denying that the relationship is over. Let me be the one to break the news to you: IT'S OVER... Next comes anger. You are angry to the person who left you in the pool of misery. You are angry to yourself. You are angry to the whole world. Go on and get mad. Find an outlet to release your emotions (just don't go hurting others) until the time that you feel that you are ready to move to the next step which is bargaining. You bargain by saying "If he/she comes back, I'll give my everything". "If he/she gives me another chance I'll make things work". And the list of "IF's" goes on forever. Don't think that you are the only one at fault. It is called a relationship because it takes two to make it a success or a failure. Next comes depression. You feel so low that you can't even get out of bed. You can't engage in your daily activities. You even wish that you were dead (of course you don't really mean it) because you are in deep pain. It's ok to feel this way. What you are going through is a normal process.

2. Forgive
Whoever fault it is, I suggest that you learn to forgive. Don't hold grudges against anyone. Forgive your ex for hurting you. And most important of all is to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for doing things that put your relationship at risk & forgive yourself for not doing things that might have save your relationship from falling apart. Don't be so cruel to yourself and to others, learn to forgive.

3. Celebrate
I know that it's so hard to be happy now but look at the brighter side of life. If you are used to having a relationship, it would really be difficult to live a single life. But hey! You can always give it a try. Consider it your "ME TIME". Go out and meet new friends. Find a new hobby. Learn something new. Pamper yourself. Get a makeover. Explore new places. Being single can also mean F-U-N. Just enjoy being single at the moment.

4. Don't go on for a rebound
The whole world knows that you are hurt. You maybe the newest member of the broken hearted club but it don’t give you the license to put other's heart in the same situation that you are into right now. Don't feel pressured to get into a new relationship just because your ex is seeing someone new. Having a new relationship just to have revenge is a big no-no. Never use someone to channel your emotions. They have nothing to do with your breakup so please have a heart, don't hurt them.

5. Be thankful
Express your gratitude to your friends and relatives for being so patient to you & for listening to your almost unending heartbreak stories. Be thankful to yourself for being strong enough to handle this very difficult chapter in your life. And of course, be thankful to God for guiding you always and for giving you new life.

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I've been there guys. And really it is difficult to survive a breakup. I pray that things will get better for you. Remember that after every storm, a rainbow appears to give hope and to promise a new life. I hope you see the rainbow very soon.